When I speak I am speaking to be heard not agreed with.
Too often than not my opinions are not heard. Too often than not I feel unseen.
The phrase "I already know what you're going to say" sharply cuts me off mid sentence.
*Internally screaming* I want to flip the fucking table.
When did not hearing what we wanted to hear turn into "I already know what you're going to say?" Because we don't. I mean truly, you may feel where something is leading but you never know how it will end. Shut up and listen.
An unconventional way of thinking has left me lost in the deep waters swimming with the big fish who are too stuck in their ways to realize every problem has several solutions.
They rough me up with every opinion that challenges theirs. I'm black and blue.
I mean can we not agree to disagree? If I can respect your perspective, maybe you can at least try to do the same?
Better yet, Us as people should take control. If we just need to be listened to, we should say that. If we need problem solving, we should say that, but we have to stop punishing the people who are just trying to help us the best way they know how because we didn't express our needs initially.
Hear me, See me, Understand me.
You should know we will probably never see eye to eye with a bullseye target, but I will always hear you. I will always do my best to see where you're coming from. Your perspective is important to me, it matters to me. I can hear every emotion in your voice, I can feel when you're getting flustered, mad or sad and I can even hear the relief in your voice when you're starting to settle down because you finally feel like you're being understood. I guess it is just the empath in me.
I mean you no harm, but you should know that your dismissive behavior is so harmful to me. I need you to See me, Hear me, Understand me & Disagree with me if you must, But please allow me to be seen. Allow me to be Heard. Give me the opportunity to be understood.
Caitxo
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